tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post7400903695359461732..comments2023-10-09T10:25:41.192-07:00Comments on Confessions from a Mormon Bachelor Pad: Rodney and Molly Sittin' In a Tree...Mormon Bachelor Padhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04258772069893950671noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-90580801382028440592010-01-29T04:22:44.400-08:002010-01-29T04:22:44.400-08:00Hey it's friday and there was no new post by y...Hey it's friday and there was no new post by you so thought of commenting here. Happy Birthday! :) Hope you didn't have too much fun ;)PushingDaisiesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-27983963321444147232010-01-27T22:20:15.768-08:002010-01-27T22:20:15.768-08:00You'll know who your suppose to marry by just ...You'll know who your suppose to marry by just looking at her, and knowing you want to spend time and all eternity with that person :)Lenanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-36686502456066347742010-01-27T20:06:39.761-08:002010-01-27T20:06:39.761-08:00Surprisingly, I came to leave a bitchy comment...a...Surprisingly, I came to leave a bitchy comment...and almost have a smile on my face after this post. I mean, quite frankly, because of personality and other factors, Rod probably thinks she's a 10 now. A 6 when he met her...then a 7 and 8 as he got to know her, then a 9 (time to get engaged) then a 10 (married life really is awesome...if you marry the right person).<br /><br />The thing I will disagree with on this post (classily - because I'm sure you didn't mean it like you said it) is that you don't actually know right when you meet the person. My husband says he knew very quickly but MAN! It took some major convincing for me to feel that way. (Poor guy).<br /><br />Anyway, yeah, when you meet her you'll know - but I doubt it will be immediate. Especially if she's a 6. You should ask your brother what he first thought when he met her. <br /><br />Also, does it bother anyone else that young people are encouraged to get married young (mostly a cultural thing but also encouraged in singles wards) and then have babies early on...and now all the sudden there are a bunch of divorced single mothers out there? I think it's a necessity that you WAIT. Just sayin'. <br /><br />Surprisingly impressed with the post. Aaaand, sorry for the novel.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07752730192463071047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-73415144922992331752010-01-27T16:10:39.594-08:002010-01-27T16:10:39.594-08:00I love the way everyone feels that the way things ...I love the way everyone feels that the way things worked for them is the one and only right way. I can say that personally I think marriage is a hundred thousand times easier then dating and nope I am not lying and nope I didn't get married yesterday. You will find your spouse your way, you might know right away, you might take a couple years, you might think they are smokin from the beginning or they might grow on you there is no recipe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-4457551659807440052010-01-27T12:41:55.078-08:002010-01-27T12:41:55.078-08:00I love how all these single ladies are in awe of y...I love how all these single ladies are in awe of you and Jake....and now your brother too. Keep blog stalking these guys ladies cuz you know they are just sitting at their computer waiting to bump into you....and then judge your attractiveness and marry you immediately. hahaha. I married an attractive man and we are always being told how good looking we both are and how everyone can't wait for us to make some hot babies...(welcome to Mormonville:). BUT...no matter how hot my husband is, I would have never stuck around for long if he didn't have a killer personality. After dating practically the whole douche population at the Y, I can tell you that I could have married about 70% of them regardless of their looks or their personality, but for me it was worth it to wait. When we met, I was immediately attracted to his tall, dark and handsome looks...BUT...also to his hilarious personality. The fact that he treated me well added to all the previously mentioned traits. After being married for a year, I can tell you that marriage is not easy. If someone tells you it is, then they are lying. However, it is a BLAST!!! If there is one thing I will say to the death about men, it is that every single man no matter who they are, is perverted and probably horny 24/7. So when you read this blog it's easy to think that Calvin and Jake (which are probably really two bored and bitter ladies) are dirty, horizontal fence sitters but really every guy is thinking what they are typing. Ladies, I hope that you follow your heart when dating and not some cynical, fake, and sad blog that I'll still read. lol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-64508417630770333092010-01-27T12:25:45.992-08:002010-01-27T12:25:45.992-08:00Too bad the most recent anonymous posted anonymous...Too bad the most recent anonymous posted anonymously, otherwise we could assign a name to the stupidest comment in weeks.<br /><br />I'm surprised Calvin that this is such an epiphany for you. Seeing as your best friend is dating and accidentally said "I love you" to a girl he also describes as a 6 who is amazing.<br /><br />I guess that "in the mouth of two or three witnesses" could apply here. <br /><br />Or, maybe it's just that YOU find your brothers wife "ugly" and think Sanders is "okay". Which is what makes this seem like such an eye opener.<br /><br />I also am pretty sure your "OS scale" description covers this pretty well. A 6 with a great personality becomes a 10. At least that's how I understood it... then again non of your readers seemed to grasp that so maybe I'm just being daft.<br /><br />-blazzerBlazzerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15346715792024913176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-35359296015540737332010-01-27T12:00:43.916-08:002010-01-27T12:00:43.916-08:00I only like your "There can be only one"...I only like your "There can be only one" button. But I really didn't realize you were a Geek. The whole being shallow thing sorta made me think you were the type of guy who only wants a trophy wife. Now I am sceptical.Nyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02331818542533122489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-91135635438649971792010-01-27T11:28:52.625-08:002010-01-27T11:28:52.625-08:00I call bull. People who are ugly usually have a ch...I call bull. People who are ugly usually have a chip on their shoulder from being ugly. They are always trying to overcompensate by being annoying and loud. <br />I say hold out for the hottest girl possible, that you can stand to be around. Then be super super nice and be on your best behavior. Say things like you will accept her whatever her past is and mean it and I will work so hard to support you in whatever you do. Just because a super hot person's personality has to be coaxed out does mean it is not there and awesome. <br />Your brother did not want to work for it. Like you said he says things even you know are wrong. So go work for it and you'll get it. <br /><br />Seriously, there are tens looking for sixes to put them on a pedestal and love and adore them. Those woman tens are willing to do that because they think that way they can, in a way, own the sixes. That the sixes would never wander from them because they are a ten. <br />Just sayin'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-88710938789192257752010-01-27T09:06:39.407-08:002010-01-27T09:06:39.407-08:00You have to be attracted to someone physically to ...You have to be attracted to someone physically to a certain extent, I want to feel wanted for how I look, I won't lie. But really? Personality makes you want to be with the person for eternity. Would you really want to be with someone ridiculously hot who sucks in every other way? Sometimes even if you're not immediately completely attracted to someone, it'll come with time, when you realize how much fun, etc. they are.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209846099033251901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-14839608590030787122010-01-27T08:39:51.391-08:002010-01-27T08:39:51.391-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11654034752681918593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-88179358925134833742010-01-27T07:44:35.365-08:002010-01-27T07:44:35.365-08:00True story. My husband is addicted to back ticklin...True story. My husband is addicted to back tickling. During our dating months, I tickled mercilessly...<br /><br />7 years later, email him and ask him if I tickle his back...no seriously...do it: <br /><br />shaneguymon@gmail.com <br /><br />ANYwho...your brother has a good head on his shoulders. Looks WILL change with time Calvin. You will both get older, gain a little weight, get saggy in places you never thought possible. Thing is, when you have a marriage based off of looks you are just setting yourself up for failure. When you have a relationship based off things that SHOULD matter, like personality, compassion, Christ like attributes, etc. then it is much easier to make things work. <br /><br />Dude marriage is hard. After 7 years I still don't know why my husband puts up with me most days, but, he does, and he freaking loves me. <br /><br />I have to say I am quite fond of him myself.Heather Guymonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08492546436161234988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-42389931362786721742010-01-27T06:34:26.648-08:002010-01-27T06:34:26.648-08:00O' wow, it just got a lot more important for y...O' wow, it just got a lot more important for you to not let your true identity be revealed... cuz your brother will be living in the dog house when it happens...<br /><br />I guess the real question, given his advice is can you be happy with someone you consider a 6... or would you grow to resent them for it? No one deserves to be settled for. And, I know I would not be happy settling for someone I found unattractive... or even moderately attractive.Aprilhttp://www.myspace.com/aprillauren2003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-71488765577213029882010-01-26T23:44:17.351-08:002010-01-26T23:44:17.351-08:00Calvin-how do you feel about the scale?- I've ...Calvin-how do you feel about the scale?- I've heard that you only typically date/marry someone who is either two numbers ahead or below that, anything else and it would just be wierd. hello hugh hiefner and his women its just wrong he is not even close to their number, good for hime that he can get them though. Anyways thats not the point, if molly is a 6 and you said your brother is better looking so by the rules of the scale he should only be an 8. So do you think the scale is true or crap?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-36675990918414644852010-01-26T23:28:59.841-08:002010-01-26T23:28:59.841-08:00I have been married for 10 years, and totally enjo...I have been married for 10 years, and totally enjoy reading this blog!<br /><br />My brother waited for several years after his mission to find a "hot" girl. He finally found her and she was so beautiful! I mean , she had big boobs, long blonde hair, tiny waist, and she even had a great personality (sort of, for the most part). The crazy thing is after 5 kids she is now overweight, wears glasses, puts her hair in a pony tail (and even chopped it all off at one point) and rarely wears makeup or does anything to look cute. I am serious! <br /><br />The really sad part is that they are both unemployed, just foreclosed on their house and she screams at her kids all the time and has turned a little loony if you ask me. <br /><br />I think it is important to be attracted to the person you marry, but waiting for a really "hot" one won't always get you through those tough times that may be ahead. And I think my SIL is very unattractive now because of both her looks and personality. I think about the girl my bro. almost married that wasn't as hot but still cute, things would be different now.<br /><br />I say look for someone that is attractive, smart, funny, no major baggage or character flaws, and someone that is still an amazing person even when life gets difficult. Good luck!<br /><br />p.s. Your brother is right, you will just know. And you are pretty smart to listen to him for marriage advice!obwisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-73770455340885379972010-01-26T22:33:32.390-08:002010-01-26T22:33:32.390-08:00WOW. I'm seriously surprised at how many marr...WOW. I'm seriously surprised at how many married people read this blog.... lol. <br /><br />Isn't blogging fabulous.<br /><br />As for the looks everyone is shallow we just have to remember... everything in balance.... You have to have some form of attraction.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01510054028929874538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-20048080172835267882010-01-26T21:45:03.866-08:002010-01-26T21:45:03.866-08:00Just make love in the dark, then you won't eve...Just make love in the dark, then you won't even be able to tell.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-20521586181946698592010-01-26T20:51:16.043-08:002010-01-26T20:51:16.043-08:00I really liked this post a lot.
and your brother...I really liked this post a lot. <br /><br />and your brother is good people.<br />(I always thought it was kinda weird when people called one person "people" but oh well. I guess I'm one of those people now).<br /><br />Anyway now that I've said people 500 times I'm ending this comment.Little Debihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09948976114449011209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-71010421291039487972010-01-26T20:31:43.204-08:002010-01-26T20:31:43.204-08:00Holy crap. Interesting post. Here's my opinion...Holy crap. Interesting post. Here's my opinion. You have to be attracted to your spouse in order to enjoy anything physical. Sure, I might be "shallow" but at least I'll be happy, and be able to sleep with my husband without throwing a paper bag over her head. Calvin, I think you can find someone attractive AND sweet. Perfect for you. Keep looking.Autumnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369822369816312002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-9294518114782526752010-01-26T19:59:21.217-08:002010-01-26T19:59:21.217-08:00Hold out for the hottest girl possible? Calvin, I ...Hold out for the hottest girl possible? Calvin, I thought you were better than that.Jules AFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05380372212489758689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-91993845909419121092010-01-26T19:54:00.109-08:002010-01-26T19:54:00.109-08:00She must be funny.
(I miss AD)She must be funny.<br /><br />(I miss AD)Jules AFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05380372212489758689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-25297567976760294262010-01-26T18:47:15.726-08:002010-01-26T18:47:15.726-08:00Anon 11:49...Someone has a stick up their butt.
...Anon 11:49...Someone has a stick up their butt. <br /><br />I already commented, but I loved the comments on this almost as much as the post. It's so true that a person can become way more attractive once you get to know them, and vice versa. I've found that less attractive guys tend to have killer personalities, and that makes them way more attractive in my eyes. I've met plenty of hot guys that are jerks and have no social skills at all, and in turn, they become quite a bit less attractive. I guess it's that whole "don't judge a book by it's cover thing." It took me awhile to get over refusing to like a guy unless he had perfect features, but I feel like I've met some pretty stellar guys as a result. And someone said that looks eventually fade..But I feel like if you truly love someone, they will only become more beautiful with time. I look at my Grandpa and how he talks and looks at my Grandma, and I can tell he thinks she is the most beautiful woman on earth. That's definitely the kind of relationship I want someday. It's all about finding someone that you work well with...I've found it very true that you find someone that is not what you were looking for at all. <br /><br />And I'm done.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13831868615002419643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-15022007978848210882010-01-26T18:23:29.187-08:002010-01-26T18:23:29.187-08:00Back rubs in the front room lead to front rubs in ...Back rubs in the front room lead to front rubs in the back room!!!sarahnichole87https://www.blogger.com/profile/14992749480007860952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-62897081380344174632010-01-26T16:19:50.113-08:002010-01-26T16:19:50.113-08:00Lacey, I think your reply is so sweet! That shows ...Lacey, I think your reply is so sweet! That shows true love right there.Jennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-53427529051986020962010-01-26T15:10:00.560-08:002010-01-26T15:10:00.560-08:00Gotta love this post. I definitely have a big bot...Gotta love this post. I definitely have a big bottom and find that there may be hope for me after all.... ;)<br /><br />Rod sound's like a cool dude. Listen to him, Calvin.c a n d a c ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03626836676964355502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3003719160930212557.post-84634413555629761412010-01-26T15:09:18.129-08:002010-01-26T15:09:18.129-08:00I think looks are important, but so is physical at...I think looks are important, but so is physical attractiveness, but it's not the only thing.<br /><br />I was not attracted to my husband when we first met, but as I got to know him he became more attractive, and now we've been happily married for almost 8 years. (He's also much older than me so the age thing turned me off, and so did his teeth, but I've gotten over that and realized all looks don't matter as much. I love him, I find him sexually attractive and we have sex, even if you had told me when I first met him I would marry him I might have thought you were crazy. )<br /><br />I would say most women know where they are on a scale of looks. I think I'm about a 6, more on the way to being pretty than being ugly, I just have a little weight to lose, and I know there are woman both more attractive than me and less. I would say my husband is about a 6 and there are those who are more attractive than him and less. We both are very open when we see others we think are cute, but that's the human wiring in us, to wander and look and sometimes want to touch, but because of our openness we might look, but never touch.<br /><br />Truth be told, we love each other for who we are and the fact that we try to work things out and care for each other. He also thinks I'm pretty cute, even though I've born two children, have slightly saggy breast and a big butt. He loves me and every inch of me and I love him, his cute butt, hairy chest, though not too hairy, and even his bad teeth, I love every inch of him.<br /><br />I think on bad days you might examine what is wrong with your spouse, but I've found on days I've done that it's because I'm not happy with myself and thus am sabotaging my own happiness with someone who loves me.Laceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13771153872911625676noreply@blogger.com