Friday, July 24, 2009

The next step

I am realizing that this blog just jumps from one weekend to the next and our dating escapades. I could write all about how we've planned a group date tonight. Me with Andrea, Calvin with Amy, Aaron with Tiffany, and Nick, well we'll find him a date before 7 o'clock. Afterall it's pioneer day, everyone in Utah is looking for something to do. I could even write about our plans and what we think will happen and the fact that I still haven't kissed Andrea, and technically it's our third date. Which lots of people say by the third date a first kiss should happen. I could talk about that stuff in this blog post, but then it would look just like every other post so far.

I feel rather like waxing intellectual... When I had my final interview with my mission President before being honorably released. He asked me, "Elder, now that you have followed this commandment do you know what the next step in your life is?" I joked that it was going to be buying a car and getting a date. He chuckled, but then went into this ranting disertation about procreation being the first great commandment and how marriage in the temple should be foremost on my mind. It was really boring... and though I know he meant well, and that my focus should be on eventually finding a wife. I really don't think I need to be in the rush he led me to think was necessary.

I would really like to perpetuate to everyone (especially my mom) that my fervent dating efforts are simply my effort to heed my Presidents council. Unfortunately the truth is that I seldom think of marriage. I never envision the girls I go out with dressed in white kneeling across the altar. I envision them in a skimpy one-piece or modest bikini. I think about kissing! I think about what I might do if kissing started to go to far. I think about how nice it is when Andrea, or any female for that matter flirtatiously touches my leg or the back of my arm. Hopefully, that's good enough for now. Hopefully kissing, more then kissing, and flirtatious touching will lead to love and marriage... it just doesn't feel like that's what I am actually going for. Should I care, that I don't really care?

Jake.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Why do Mormons always put so much stress and importance on kissing? What's the big deal? A guy and a girl push their lips against each others lips. Who cares?

Mckenzie said...

I love this blog!!! You guys are hillarious!!

Sara said...

Ok.... quick question? Is this for real? Maybe I'm being gullible and I'm supposed to be reading this as about the driest type of sarcasm written... or its for real, and I'm a bit concerned... or maybe somewhere in between.. let me know.

Erin Paulukaitis said...

i agree with you. I'm experiencing the same kind of deal right now, and sometimes its just nice to not have to worry about making that your only priority. Love and marriage should be the ultimate goal, but how are you going to know who that will be with unless you date around first? you dont have to imagine every girl you're with as being your eternal companion. we're all only human. Yeah, i guess its a time to be looking for someone, but that doesn't mean you can't have fun in between.

K @ Blog Goggles said...

Haha... this is so interesting. Love the stories.

Samantha Kay said...

You are still young and have the rest of your life to marry and "procreate". I promise. All is well. Enjoy your youth... your marriage will be easier if you are wiser when you marry. The only way to be wise is to age and experience.
Often the wisest man in the room is the man who has made the most mistakes. :D

Anonymous said...

I think in dating, you should always have in mind that the point of dating is to eventually lead to marriage. Now, this doesn't mean that you have to imagine the every girl you're dating in white kneeling across the altar. I don't even think it means you can't think about them touching your arm or imagine them in a swimsuit or kissing them or whatever. I just mean, remember that when we get right down to it, the real point of dating is to find a potential marriage partner. That's the cold hard truth. So don't imagine every girl kneeling across the altar. Just be decent enough to have the thought, "Is she the type of person that I would want to marry?" if not, don't enter into a relationship, don't kiss her, don't waste your time. When you're married, you'll be happier that you don't have a bunch of NCMO's in your memory for your spouse to feel jealous of or compare herself to or for you to feel guilty about. Things will just be less complicated all around if you have the integrity to remember the long term goal in the back of your mind, and to act accordingly.

Steven said...

Don't rush a marriage and end up divorced in two years. On the other hand don't get so caught up in dating so many girls that you turn into a man-slut!
Just let things happen naturally and you'll get to the marriage point when you're good and ready.