Instead of going out tonight, Andrea and I stayed at my place and decided to watch the first season of Heroes together. All the roommates were out doing something. Aaron finally went out with my friend Tiffany. Calvin and Nick decided to test out a new Girl House in the Stake, and Lance - I think he's clubbing at Studio 600 (at least that's the only place he could have been going with that shiney button up shirt.)
Anyway, we didn't even make it through the first episode before we started making out. As anyone who regularly reads this blog knows, Andrea mentioned early in our relationship that she was uncomfortable with tongue kissing. She also drew the lines of approved "caress zones" far more restrictive then I ever imagined necessary. Up until recently I have chosen to respect her feelings on the matter. To respect her "comfort zone". Alas, I am getting bored with our standard, kiss-sitting-up-no-tongue-only-rubbing-arms-neck-and-back routine. So I have decided I am going to try to move things more towards MY comfort zone, and see how that works.
I have been nervous about taking things a little further, but truthfully I feel that morally, everything that I am comfortable doing is within the bounds that the Lord has set for appropriate pre-marriage intimacy. Obviously, whether I'm right or not doesn't really matter if Andrea's not comfortable since ,as they say, it takes two to tango. So, I have decided that I need to tread carefully to ensure that Andrea continues to tango while still moving our make out sessions into new territory.
I decided to start with the hands. About the time Hayden Panettiere throws herself off a building, I moved my hand from the back of Andreas neck to her collar bone. Andrea pauses for a moment but doesn't pull away. I counted this as a success. I then moved my other hand up under her shirt onto the bare skin of her lower back. Keep in mind that for Andrea this was some pretty risqué stuff. For me, well the touch of Andrea's, thus far, "forbidden" flesh was more enjoyable then the touch of any other feminine skin I had experienced. It was more exciting because I had to wait for it, and awesome that she didn't protest.
Heroes ran through about 3 episodes thanks to the "play all" feature, and I had successfully overcome all of her "no hand" zones. I mean, I still steered clear of the privates and the high inner thigh, but it was definitely a vigorous... no, a passionate make-out. We chilled out for a bit and talked.
I decided I wasn't going to bring up the advancements we had made, and she didn't either. Instead we talked about school and how we were both starting it next week. We watched Heroes, for a minute, but started laughing when we realized we had no idea what was going on. We decided to get some Beto's, before I took her home for the night.
There is a little playground about a stones throw away from Andreas house. We had spent several nights here talking, and our first kiss happened on the swings so it was a familiar spot. Perfect, I thought, for the next phase of my plan. After eating, talking some more, and chewing some gum, I helped Andrea up from the ground and pulled her towards me to kiss her. Now that my hands were free to roam, I was able to induce in her a little more excitement for act then previously possible.
I waited until it seemed like she was as turned on as she possibly could have been, and then, I slipped her the tongue. I was careful not to cram it down her throat or anything, but I wanted to make sure she knew it was there. She pulled back this time, and looked at me. I waited. She pulled my face to hers, and this time, she was the one slipping tongue. It was awesome. Granted, it was obvious that Andrea had never tongue kissed a boy before, and her technique was a little rough. However, I really like this girl, we have been dating for nearly a month and our intimacy up to this point has been rigid. It made this kiss so super duper!
For the final move into my comfort zone, I picked Andrea up, while still kissing and carefully moved to the slide. I set her down on the edge of the slide and slowly leaned over her. I didn't hesitate, but was observant to see how she was reacting. Andrea's a smart girl, and I think she knew what was coming. She laid back and there we were. Kissing, with tongue, horizontally.
It didn't feel dirty, it didn't get out of hand. It was magnificent. We kissed for about 20 more minutes like that, and then I walked her home. On the doorstep, she said, "You got a little naughty tonight." I probably made some stupid face and said, "Naughty?" really thinking that word was a poor choice. She simply replied with, "That was fun." Then she swung her arms around my neck and kissed me. Without tongue.
I walked back to my car and thought, "She used the word 'naughty' and then finished with a no tongue kiss... is she trying to tell me that was a one time deal?"