Who has two thumbs and is closing on his house tomorrow with his best friend at 10am? (Picture the most attractive version in your mind of me holding up my two thumbs and pointing them at myself and then saying in a deeper voice than normal with a cheesy grin while flexing my biceps) "This guy!"Aaron, my tool of a roommate, has been dating freckles the last few weeks. Once again, he's seems to be picking up some more of Calvin's sloppy seconds. Except, I don't think Cal ever made out with her so the analogy would be more Aaron is snaking Calvin's old Panda Express take-out from the back of the fridge. Anyway, if you remember correctly she is Andrea's cousin.
So, occasionally I will see her (and by 'her', I mean Freckles). We exchange hello's and what not but never talk. Aaron informed me after their date the other day that Andrea has been dating the Fireman pretty seriously. Aaron told me in a way that I think he thought was sensitive to my feelings. At one point he said, "This really sucks, dude. It does. But if I was you, I would want to know... do you want to know?"
I don't think I did want to know, but, like this blog, I couldn't help myself. I said, "Know what? Just tell me dude." He said, "Carla (that's "Freckles" for those who didn't follow the link) thinks that they are going to get engaged."
I didn't say anything. I actually took it pretty hard. I mean, I deserve whatever, right? I was the one who let her go. I was the one who ended the relationship. I was the one so overcome with insecurity that I figured she was better off. So I shouldn't be whining. Still, I couldn't help but think that some serious disaster was upon me. I had a sick feeling in my stomach all day.
Would I take Andrea back if she would have me? Today? Yes.
-Jake
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Aww poor Jake! I'm sorry, dude. I know it's super cheesy and cliche but you really will find someone. I think you sound nice. :)I can't really say anything else, I guess, you know it's your fault and all. But good luck!
If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it.
hahaha, "Beyonce." I agree, but perhaps all is not lost. Girls usually stay attached for awhile, and there's often a phase after the anger/bitterness and before the "moving on" that is conducive to getting back together if you happen to catch her at that time. Jake, if you're still thinking about her after this long, maybe you should tell her. Worth a try, right? And you're not together now, so there's really nothing to lose. Just saying...
What??? I think this maybe is a case of wanting a toy, because another boy has it and deems it fun. The point... you like the idea of Andrea. Go back and read that letter you posted from her. That will cure you.
Aw, Jake. That sucks. If it makes you feel any better, your first paragraph had me laughing like a fool watching South Park reruns.
I wish you luck, Jake. I've been there.
('Beyonce's' comment cracks me up.)
^to Beyonce: Oh oh oh, oh oh oh, oh oh oh.
I was led on and then dumped by a girl for another guy in high school. It really sucked. I didn't really like her anymore after that, but I still liked the idea of her, so I was rather jealous. It probably didn't help that the guy she dumped me for's locker was right next to mine, and they'd meet there everyday to publicly display their affection, haha.
I'm pretty sure your reaction is normal. It's been a year, and I'm just now over the "what if" stage, so yeah, don't stress over it.
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Pretty similar, except, it's what happens when you hit that next stage in life and actually don't have ample roommates/single friends.
I hate that feeling in the pit of my stomach. Hope it goes away for you soon. Sorry man.
Beyonce is lame...and married to a man too dope for her.
Dear Beyonce,
You always know the right things to say.
I wanted to say something, then I totally forgot. So I will just say; Good luck on closing!
Shelby Lou
You should call her. You never know, she might be settling because she doesn't think you would ever want her back. I've seen it happen far too many times before! She's the only one of your girls that I've ever liked anyways.
bahahaha. Oh Beyonce.
maybe talk to her and find out for yourself if it's true about the being engaged thing, and don't listen to Aaron because...
first of all... he isn't calvin.. so why would you take advice from him anyhow..
and second... He's a tool, like you said, and just likes taking sloppy seconds from you guys..
Even though those aren't good points for not listening to him, I still think you should talk to her yourself.. because maybe it took all of this to happen to realize how much you really do love her and need her..
just sayin'..
Beyonce...you're so wise.
touche.
I think you did her a big favor and in the end you will both be happier. There is no disparity in marriage like incompatibility of mind and purpose. She seems like a person who sincerely want to be good and you...I am not quite sure, but it seems more like you want to appear that way in certain circles and live as close to the 'line' as you can.
I hate guys.. seriously you all do that crap. Boo Jake! Wishy washy stuff doesn't fly, and she is way better off.
Oh P.S. I do the same thing so I retract the above statements.
first: the beyonce comment made me laugh out loud.
second: of course you want her back, guys always want what they can't have. why is that? haha. oh well dont worry, im sure it was for the best and maybe you were dodging a bullet there. hm?
Um, Beyonce up there is brilliant. lol
Poor Jake. I feel bad for you but yeah...you should have held on to that one. I think it'll get easier with time. I hope so.
i love the comment from "beyonce" with all my heart. congratulations on the house!
Bwahahaha. Classic, Beyonce. Classic.
I remember a time when I looked back at all the girls I had dated/pursued previously and realized they were all married. It kind of sucked. Then I got over it and enjoyed watching some football/basketball, going to movies/hikes/mountains/beaches, and just having fun. You're better off without her - enjoy where you are in life right now, and wish her "nothing but the best." After all, it would seem she's better off without you too (sorry, man, but it's probably true - you seemed to be on different levels wanting different things from life).
I would call her. If she's over you then she's over you. But maybe there's still a chance.
But seriously, if she leaves this guy for you and you dump her again, I will punch you in the face.
Oh and good luck with your new house! :]
I am surprised you know what adjectives/verbs are.
JAKEEEEE!!! YOU HAVE TO TRY!!! GO GET HER BEFORE SHE's GONE!!! I"M WRITING IN ALL CAPS BECAUSE IT'S IMPERATIVE THAT YOU "MAN UP" (as they call it) AND GO GET HER!!!
I new you were going to regret it man...Sorry that you do though.
You should try to take her back. See what she says?
Douche. You deserve it...
I am actually surprised someone would give you a loan...really!
I am a new reader of your blog and I have been trying to read back on past posts to catch up, but it is really annoying to read a post then scroll to the top of the next, and so on. Have you thought of making a blog book available? You could sell it and girls could give it to each as dating advice to be funny. Then they could catch up beginning to end. Just a thought.
Andrea is not out of the game until she is married, so text her and say
"I am now good enough for you, so when you are done with the fireman you are dating, call me and lets get married."
At least it will make her realize she has options and if it does not work out with him, then she knows you are there to go to.
Jake- you and Calvin are first-class derelicts for buying a house together. I'd bet that it will negatively effect your friendship.
I like Tiffany's text idea. lol
Hmmmm. I don't know if I agree with "Beyonce" up there. I mean, you can't rush those things, and you did what you felt was right. I'm sorry dude. You can find someone just as good for you :]
talk to her. snog her. marry her. the end
Dude, I have to say. You should not go after her again. Like you yourself said, you let her go. And like Julie said, this is definitely a case of wanting something because you can no longer have it.
Don't play the toddler, Jake. You've already moved on, don't lust after something just because its taken now.
sorry j. you want me to send the fireman some poost?
it's called: the forbidden fruit syndrome.
just words. every girl who has a friend dating someone thinks they're going to end up marrying them. utah mentality. so don't sweat too much.
I know this sounds sappy, but everything happens for a reason. When my former boyfriend was killed in a car accident I thought that I would never find anyone else. I didn't even believe in love anymore. I was living with my best friend at the time and days after his death I moved back in with my parents.
Here's how my life went after..
Had he not died, I would not have moved back with my parents.
Had I not moved in with my parents, I would not have gone to the Marine Corps ball with my brother.
Had I not gone to the Marine Ball with my brother, I would not have met my husband.
Had my brother and I not sat next to my future husband at the ball, we never would have felt the connection we have.
It tooks months for my to admit the connection I had with my husband because I didn't believe it was real, until I found out that he felt the same way.
Just before he was to deploy to Afghanistan he went through his phone, saw my name, and felt like he should send me a text message.
Neither of us ever wanted to get married or have children. We just had not found the right person. Now we are happily married and will have a little boy in July.
What I'm saying is, don't give up hope.
You're an idiot and karma is a bitch. I give you about 6 months until you flake out and quit paying you mortgage. IDIOT! Suck it!
Dude, man up, strap on a pair, you made your choice, deal with it.
You guys are disgusting and you disgust me.
- Anonymous reader who both hates and dislikes you
You guys are disgusting and you disgust me.
- Anonymous reader who both hates and dislikes you
I know it's not exactly fair to her, but if you still care about her enough to take her back...maybe you should tell her that.
Don't think that it's too late, I think you both deserve to be happy.
I want to say "I'm sorry" but that probably won't make you feel any better. But I think that everything happens for a reason, maybe it just wasn't what the lord had in mind for you.
Sadly, not everything happens for a reason, some of it is just random crap.
Sorry, I just had to say that.
And before people get on me for this, it is personal revelation if you find that something happened for a reason. If it applied to everyone, the prophet would say so. My bishop's wife had a revelation that her daughter's cancer was just a chance combination of genes and bad conditions, and that God wasn't putting her through it for a reason. So I know you guys don't mean to, but don't lie to him. It's between Jake and God whether that break up happened for a reason.
A'ight?
(Beyonce is my hero)
I totally agree with emarston13. I hate it when people say "everything happens for a reason". That has to be my least favorite saying, especially when I hear it in testimony meeting.
It is like saying that life is something that just happens to you. Like God just decides what is going to happen and that is what happens so it is for a reason. Sometimes things happen because of our choices, and sometimes they happen because of the choices of others and sometimes things happen and we have no control over it.
We can learn from everything that happens in life, which means everything can have a purpose if that is the way we choose to see it. But everything does not happen for a reason.
They broke up because Jake chose to break up, it didn't just *happen*.
I could keep going but I have probably said enough.
Jake, please please PLEASE do not call her/ text her/ contact her unless you are 100% sure that you're ready for commitment with her. You'll only get her hopes up and hurt her all over (if she's still interested in you) and that would just be cruel.
Oh, and congratulations on your house purchase. :)
To all the people telling Jake to call her....are you freaking kidding me??? You must be living in a fantasy world or something. He dumped her remember? And now she has moved on and probably found a more mature guy who is not just looking for some snog action. It sounds like she has found someone who is in it for the long haul. I also hate the term "everything happens for a reason" Yeah, except for when you fade out of a girls life when you quit calling her and don't have the balls to man up and break it off like a normal person. This blog isn't that great, but it's the stupid comments that keep people coming back.
You want what you can't have... you never know what you have until you don't have it....
-The End-
nice post. thanks.
In spite of my new-ish Twitter friendship with Calvin, I've never actually commented on this blog. First time for everything, I suppose.
But I started reading this blog in the first place because I was TOTALLY an Andrea in every possible way (except I wasn't Mormon, but I WAS very involved in a religion, so it correlates), and I wanted to see it play out. And it really has been interesting to almost ... see it from the other side, and to have this realization that no matter how unique you think your life or your situation is, these things constantly play out, over and over, all around us without us ever really knowing.
I'm still curious to see where this goes, but I think that the reason that I'm commenting is because ... well, as the Andrea, it's kind of nice to see you feeling like this, realizing that you were an idiot and thinking she was valuable.
Anyway. I'm just going to go back to cussin' like a sailor and making filthy jokes about television shows now. :)
You are idiots. I wish I hadn't found your blog because I actually take my religion seriously while you mock it. The next time you go to the temple I hope you really think about what you're writing here and how you will be accountable. Grow up!
you're kind of a dork.
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